The Copy Cat Bride

Too often with weddings, as well as in every day life, we always seem to witness others copying our ideas.
While copying someone, whether it be a new piece of clothing, a car, or even hairstyle-is usually thought of as the most flattering of all compliments to give someone-what it really says is “I like your style, I want to attract the same attention that you do”.

But let’s face it; it can also become as personal as going for an awesome job, weddings and baby names. When does copying someone cross over the line of complimentary tribute to a more personal issue?

You express, you plan, you design and then all of a sudden someone rips the exact same carpet out from under you-how do you deal with it?

The same thing happens with designers, and other artists-their material gets ripped off.

So here are some strategies on how to cope with the copy cats in our lives and how to put them into perspective:

1: Remember-nothing is ever quite as good as the original: It ain’t as simple as bottling the same ingredients-give yourself points for the “originality” aspect-no one can create the Mona Lisa as well as da Vinci himself ;) The old adage is true: “Often imitated, never duplicated.”

2: Not all of us are created equally-and that means talent and creativity too. Sometimes copying something is a mere lack of creative effort or skill. Try asking the person what they are looking for, or getting them to envision their own style and dream will help to stir up their own juices, and move them away from your ideas. Take it as a sign that they could be lost for direction in their own planning, so they are taking the queues from someone who knows what they want.

3: Fear-Theirs, not yours. It could be a their own inner fear and insecurity coming out that their own ideas aren’t “good enough” or afraid of looking bad-especially in front of others on their wedding day. This is when the competitive factor may also come out to try to “out-do” one another.

4: Put things into perspective for yourself-ask yourself “is it worth it?” Planning a wedding is stressful all on it’s own-and dealing with someone else’s immaturity can only serve as a distraction in your own plans. Keep your chin up, because in the end-there is one thing that no knock-off can recreate: and that is the love that you and yours truly share. That will radiate from within, and your guests will feel it and enjoy in it with you as you take that step together. Going back to point No.1: Nothings ever feels, or looks as good as the original-and you are!