The stuff no one ever tells you when you get engaged

Hello Everyone!! Sorry to have been MIA the last couple of weeks-but buh-lieeeve me-it's been anything but rest! I have lots of stuff to fill you in on later posts, but I really got to thinking a lot lately about how much your world really does get flipped upside down, once you get that sparkly diamond slipped on your finger.
So I thought I'd start off by dishing on what to expect when you get engaged.

1) Show me that bling!! Though it almost goes without saying, you just have to show off that new ring to everyone and their mother! Everyone it seems wants to get an up close and personal look at your new rock-so be prepared to show it off!

2)The pressure: When, where, how, and what are just a few of the questions that everyone seems to want answers too! A simple response to any of these, is "When we decide, we will let you know." Everyone wants to share in your day, and with it comes a lot of opinions, and advice, which can be overwhelming. Just take a deep breath, and just remember that the ultimate decision making will be made by the two of you.

3) The financial obligations: This one can bring a lot of stress just on it's own. Unless you have ever helped to plan a wedding, often times, until you take that leap into "wedding world"-you have no idea how much things cost. No one tells you what to look for in quality, or how much to expect to pay for certain items.

4) The disagreements: I've often heard many couples say that they never argued or had a disagreement before they got engaged-so why now? With the pressure all around, financial strains, or differing opinions on what is most important for your day, these can all add up to boiling point. My advice is if the discussion starts to heat up, take it off the table for a couple of days and come back to it. A cake, or stationary is not worth the aggravation.

5) The jealousy. Yes this sometimes rears it's ugly head-especially from surrounding friends or family that may be in waiting for their time to come, or others who may be upset that you did not choose them to be in the wedding party. Be mindful of their feelings, but do not feel as though you have to walk on eggshells around them. If they are truly happy for you, then they will share in your happiness.

My advice is to make sure that you come back to making time for the two of you to reconnect and take a break from the wedding planning. The decision making process comes much easier, if you make them together, and with a clear head.
Enjoy this wonderful time together,

All the best,